Eve-Teasing or, Teasing the "EVE"

When God created this planet, this world, he/she after casting out many creatures, created human beings to drive the wheels of life of intelligent living organisms. He/she at the time of his/her creation laid equal emphasis on man and woman and sent one each on this Earth. He/she (God) knew very well that, to let the vehicle of life go and accelerate, equal power is required on all wheels and that was possible only with a synchronization of everything – be it power, excellence, sensitiveness, love, courage, compassion or, anything required to propel the engine of vehicle of life. A static as well as dynamic balancing, even in a complex condition, was a must to keep the vehicle moving at constant speed, conquering every obstacle and bumper with much ease. Thus, he created Adam and Eve and, sent them on this Earth.

As time passes by, human beings keep evolving, gaining more power, excellence and thereby improving the style of their living. But, in this mean time, though we learnt to worship gods and goddesses, we also learned to dominate our better half, the empire of “EVE” – the women. “EVE” in the above heading also represent the “Women Empire”. It’s just a part of sarcasm that states or asks – “Are we indulging ourselves in eve-teasing” or, “are we teasing the “EVE”?”

The present scenario is becoming worse from bad. Now, we are living in such a society where, every single woman or girl, in some or the other way, is afraid of eve-teasing, harassment, rape or unnatural touch. The statistics available of such cases and the contents of daily newspaper prove this fear or shameful fact. Each day we hear about rapes, harassment or eve-teasing cases but, we hardly try to change our thinking, our taboo, or our ossified attitude against the women. The patriarchal wall needn’t be broken but, this should be melted down in order to form an alloy with 50% women power or equal opportunities for them.

 We aren’t doing anything great work by letting the women to achieve/to get what they deserve or, what’s already their birth right. Who are we to snatch anything from anyone or, to rob women of their basic and natural rights? They also have equal rights to live their life of their own, to do what they want, to achieve what they aspire for. It should be their choice what they want to become, it needs to be their selection who they want to marry and when they are ready for that. We don’t have any right to, and we also mustn’t, impose anything on them (women) or, force them to do what we like.

We have numerous examples around us which solidifies the belief that women in no way is different from us – be it in the field of education, business, sports or, art, literature and politics. Even in some fields, they are superior to their male counterpart.

So, it’s high time that we need to do some introspection and treat women like our better half. We don’t need to treat them as special, we just need to allow them to flourish, to move forward in their life without any obstacle on our part or any sort of fear in their mind.

The Great Indian Wedding - Is it Really Great???????????????????

Wedding – the name itself is enormous enough to fill anyone with so much energy, enthusiasm and hope – of celebration, food, dance, music etc. that, thinking about it gives you a natural kick from inside to be ready to enjoy, to do something “toofani”. The mere imagination of everything- 3 days or 5 days celebration, delicious and lip–smacking flavor of all food items, thrilling music having the power to change the gloominess spread on anyone’s face forcing him/her to tap his/her feet parallel to the wordings, the eyeball-grabbing decorations, beautiful flowers, new dresses – can tickle your childish part of brain and sends chills down your spine. And, when it comes to Indian wedding, everyone just get struck in an awe surprise. Indians totally and literally go crazy during the 3 or 5 days bash and, they celebrate & enjoy up to their last tinge of energy. They are just fully unstoppable.

But, this is just the brighter side of wedding celebration that gets success in catching the eyeballs of the people living in the society. No one cares or think about what it takes to organize such a grand celebration or, how much work the bride’s family has to do to make it to the wedding. There is no doubt that Indian Wedding is beautiful and soulful but, some of the rituals and customs followed during this huge celebration aren't good and necessary.

The custom of “Dowry” driven with the sole force of greediness and financial superabundance is neither a necessity nor important. The groom’s family and relatives open their mouth too wide shamelessly in front of bride’s family and ask for a lump-sum amount. This tradition-cum-greedy intention, which needs to be criticized and stopped, is flourishing at a large scale and increasing rate, in spite of the fact that it’s a crime and may result in a large amount of fine and prison-sentence according to Indian Penal Code. The bride’s family whether or not capable of meeting the requirement as per the groom’s family, give their consent to fulfill it. And, the darker side of this tradition is that, the groom and his family who ask for such a huge amount of dowry, are well literate and prosperous. It has even become a saying that’s already making rounds and which states that, “the more literate you are or, the more high position you are at, the more eligible you are to get or ask for - huge and huge amount of money as dowry.”

Other customs that need to be criticized are – “Kashiyatra- followed in southern states”, “Carrying of Matka by the bride on her head”, “Treating the presence of mother during girl’s wedding as a curse in some Bengali wedding” etc. There are other customs too which in addition to the above are done for fun but, this fun sometimes becomes a burden for the follower and demands an end.

To be continued………….............................

Separation - An inevitable but, Bitter Truth

Separation- An inevitable but, Bitter Truth

Life is like a journey which we start with some people, come across others during the journey and abandon some while moving towards our destination. Life is all about moving continuously, incessantly and, without stopping for others. The life of human being is too mysterious, though in Susan Sontag’s words – “Nothing is mysterious, no human values, except love”. But, it seems to be untrue. Because, you can’t predict in advance about what’s going to happen the very next minute, what type of people you will come across the very next day or, anything. You even can’t be sure of your success but, you can have faith on yourself and God. The only path leading to success passes by the corner of hard work, patience and creativity. Creativity is very important, as it is one of the ingredients of whatever you do in any field of work, to get success.

Human feelings are driven by love and attachment. The more you move towards your destination, more is your chance of coming across new persons with different energy, tastes or sensitiveness. There are many persons who attach themselves to others, whom they encounter during their journey, so tightly that it becomes really impossible to detach or come off. It’s not because, they lack strength or, they are too sensitive. But, it happens as a result of virtual bonding of love, compassion & togetherness between those persons which becomes too strong, as they continue to spend time with them, that they start treating the virtual adherence as the real one. No one remains untouched by the feeling of close personal relationship that forms between people.

It’s a well-established and proven fact that, whenever anyone confronts a person of his/her taste, age, likes, principles etc. it is likely to happen that they get bonded together. And, separation from them is too painful. It’s also true with people not belonging to the same age group but, they do share a common feeling, principle or, likes.

To be continued……………………………………………………………………..